Here we are as a parents.
This ability to reach for the stars and meet your own high expectations doesn’t just come out of nowhere—which is why goal-setting for kids is so important. If we do not strive to learn new skills in parenting, then we will run automated subconscious program which we gain from our parents and they get it from their parents and so on. Ultimate goal is to brake that stigma of parenting based on fear and emotions which constricts the souls of the little ones.
One of the biggest parenting goals we have are to teach our children how to take responsibility for their own behavior and thinking. To facilitate a healthy self-esteem, and to cultivate a growth mindset so that they hit through challenges and work through failures and tough times. These goals produce confident, capable kids who have what they need to succeed at reaching their fullest potentials. Goal-setting is a simple way for kids to build confidence and self-esteem, learn responsibility, and gain a ,,I CAN DO IT,, attitude!
First we need to explain what goals are...A goal is a target or something you shoot for just like a hockey or soccer player. Goals usually start with ‘I will’ and have two parts—that is, what you want to accomplish and when you hope to accomplish it.”
Research shows that people who set goals are more successful, happier and fulfilled. However, anyone who has seen their New Year’s resolution go down the swirling drain knows that just setting a goal isn’t enough to achieve success. To teach our kids how set goals and succeed, we need to keep a few things in mind.
Before setting the goal:
Ask them what was the biggest thing they have accomplished, this and past year and discuss it. How kids do feel about it?
1. Goals should be achievable. There is no pleasure set unattainable goals and fail to reach them. Sure there should be one General goal to strive for and it is easier to achieve it if You divide it in to manageable steps. Achieving small steps will give kids confidence and motivation to keep moving forward. For example
2. Kids should write goals down on paper. When writing our goals down it helps to take ownership on them. According to The Science of Goal Setting by Vanessa Van Edwards, this is called “the endowment effect.” She says the endowment effect “happens when we take ownership of something and it becomes ours, thereby integrating into our sense of identity.” Plus, writing down their goals will make the next step easier, which is to list actionable steps to attain that goal. You can also help to create large poster boards called VISIONBOARDS and help them see goals already achieved in their minds, pictures will help to imagine easier.
3. Plan. Help them set mini-milestones and rewards that will help them take steps throughout the plan to achieve their goals. Having a goal without a plan to achieve that goal may set our kids up for failure. Without clear steps to take, kids (and adults) might not know how to achieve their goal, and not knowing what step to take first, they may take no step at all. Therefore, as soon as a goal is set, help your child identify the actionable first steps he or she can take to achieve success. Using the examples:
--- to improve physical strength, I need to train more, do excercises
--- to help my Mom in housework, I just need to ask her what to help
--- to clean my room I just need to start to tidy up from one side
--- to dress-up i just need to find my clothes
4. Make sure the goal is measurable. “I want to be healthier” is a great goal, but how will kids measure it? Your child might want to set a goal of “being liked more at school” or “becoming more athletic,” but these are broad goals. Help them create specific, measurable goals like “running a 100 m dash,” “making a new friend or SP,” or “jumping higher.” That way, they’ll know exactly when they achieve their goal!
5. Teach your child that setbacks and mistakes aren’t failures, and encourage a growth mindset by helping them to cultivate positive self-talk like “I can do this no matter what” or “ ” Teach them that working toward the goal is as important as achieving it, and that “failure” is really just a teaching tool. Your encouragement and support will be an important part of the process of learning how to set and achieve their goals.
6. Congratulate them, encourage them, and support them throughout the plan for working toward their goals. Motivation from parents is most important thing in parenting and it superforces goal achieving. Give advices and always remember kids goal as a present fact, that it is already achieved.
7. Introduce them to Positive Visualization Techniques (PVT)
Our goals-setting method teaches an important life skill that simplifies an ambition and breaks it down into actionable steps, making it more likely to be achieved. Positive Visualization Techniques to see accomplished goal already in Your minds eye.
8. Teach them to calm their minds, to know his or hers thoughts. When You can control Your mind, its Your superpower. Learn about subconscious mind and teach it to kids.
Using these steps our kids can achieve goals easy and fast.
Remember to encourage them and do not put them down, they can take it seriously.